The younger they are the more difficult they will find these questions. Your job as a parent is to help them gain a clear sense of what they want to accomplish; a goal that your child can visualize as worth achieving. Talk to them about what they want and help them focus on an outcome they like. Involve them in picturing that favorable outcome and setting their goals. Do not overburden them with all the things they Should do. Instead let them learn goal setting by reaching for something they really desire. Start when they are young and continuously widen the scope, and before you know it your child will have a pattern of setting and achieving his or her goals.
You are aiming for the strengthening of your child’s conscience in all of this. Remember the conscience? That old fashioned notion which was our inner voice reminding us when we did something wrong? The conscience led us to appropriate guilt which in turn led us to healthy actions – apologizing and making amends. That’s how people used to “grow up” when they made mistakes.
You have to learn to organize your time to get the most out of every day and in the same instance you have to “Be Good To You”. The majority of our time is caught up in daily rituals. Get up, get the children off to school, go to work, come home and prepare dinner, get the children to bed then we get up and do it over and over again.
“Come on.don’t you want to do this? I promise I won’t tell any of the others. We can just have some fun and no one would know!” Her voice now held the hint of sarcasm as her hands reached for his belt once more.
His focus returned to the present, and he now perceived the vibrant, proud Keisha vanish, as she spoke to the others determination to make herself appear exalted at his expense. As he watched, he now noticed more than he had expected to ever see. For now he saw that her need to expose him as the fool also painted her with the same brush strokes. Her need to exalt herself over others was, in fact, showing how much she lacked of her own self esteem. And therefore magnifying her own foolish decisions. He felt pity for her for the first time in his life. Pity for her and the ones, his brothers, that caused him so much hurt in the past to cover their own anxieties.
The program ought to be as authentic as possible. A stiff, hard fact is that the youths will consume weeks and months in the camps, but will finally return home. By all means this does not hamper with their academic studies. However, it’s important to incorporate normal school activities as well as the academic studies in the scheme of programs for them to be honored back in their usual schools.
If your kids are anything like mine, they’ll need a complete sleep overhaul. The later nights mean later mornings. I usually try to start the kids going to sleep a little earlier each night, for about a week, before the first day of school. Nothing to drastic, I don’t want to throw their little bodies into shock. About 20 to 30 minutes earlier each day, until they get back to their regular school night bed time, should do the trick.